You were great AH (fullstop)

It takes a whole lot more energy, brain-calories-burning thoughts, intentional-ity, grace and love, to say

"I think you were great because __________________ (traits to affirm in the person)"

than "I think you were great AH". (fullstop)



It's not just about the number of words.

Personally i think there is diminished value in simply saying that someone was great, without explaining why,
especially if you are not already close friends.

Go an extra mile (with extra pinches of grace) to tell the person directly what exactly he or she did great, because:

1. It pinpoints and affirms the exact God-given strengths the person has, allowing him to know so that he can utilise it more;
(not forgetting that it stirs up a lil' thanksgiving tune in his heart towards God)

2. The person may not even know that he has such a strength in the first place / or ever see it as a strength / or not even know he has strengths!

This is also a key that i caught in my years of mentoring the youths, many of whom really need light to shine upon their strengths and weaknesses, so that they can understand themselves better. :)